Who are you?

Who are you? This is one of the hardest questions for people to answer. I’m not talking about what your name is or where you’re from. I’m talking about who are you. What makes you, you? What drives you? What are your core values? What makes you happy? What’s most important to you? What are your passions? What makes you tick? What inspires you? What are the skills that you are proud to have? What are you good at? What makes you unique? What are your hobbies?

I have been to so many interviews, and this is one of the most commonly asked questions. Also, again, the hardest question to answer. I read that interviewers know within the first 5 minutes if they are going to hire you or not. So, your answer to this question could be your saving grace. I always struggle with answering this because I don’t want to sound like I am bragging, but I don’t want to sound like I don’t think I’m good enough. It’s hard to balance the two. I feel like you need to answer the question “Who are you?” for yourself on a personal level, before you can answer it on a professional level.

Everyone is different. Everyone is going to have different answers. You have to make sure that your answer sticks out to whoever is asking.

I asked my social media following the same question, and I got quite a few responses:

  • My answer will probably be long. I’m a Christian, a daughter, a sister, an aunt, a wife, a mom, a mamaw, a huge Disney fanatic, a business owner. I am many things to many people but when I set and think about it, who am I for me?
  • I am a lover of truth and fairness – Mom- wife – foster mom to any pup who comes my way. I am a teacher and will always fight for those who find themselves as one of my kids! I am here.
  • I’m the best of all time
  • I am a mom, a wife, a daughter, a teacher, a friend. I love with all of my heart. I put others before myself. I am a procrastinator. I struggle every day…. am I doing it right? Am I good enough? Am I fat? Do I look pretty? Who cares about those things…. wait, do I care about those things? I shouldn’t care about those things. Am I enough for my kids? Am I momming ok? Do I do enough? Do I give my kids enough time? Am I tough enough on them? Am I too easy on my kids? Do I tell my wife I love her enough? Do I show her I love her? Does God know I need and want him in my life? I can’t find a church…. does that matter? God still loves me, right? I’m gay… God loves all his children, right? Am I doing enough for my students? I am a worrier! I am me!!!
  • I’m an asshole, a nice one but still a asshole, but I’m damn good at it!
  • When I think of who I am I think that somethings may never change, I am a strong willed, sarcastic, and a diagnosed sociopath. What drives me is the ability to never give up no matter how hard it gets, I live by the quote “to die would be an awfully big adventure”, although it has been changed to, “to live would be an awfully big adventure.” I’m fully of pet peeves, such as being lied to, the inability to defer left from right (dyspraxia) but the biggest peeve is doing something wrong, I get so frustrated even though it’s normal to make mistakes, but that is my autism speaking it’s strives for perfection but somedays only achieves average. But overall my drive are my friends, they motivate me mentally to carry on, they see my through my bad days, and hype up my good days. A journey is never complete if you go at it alone.
  • I am a lover not a fighter, an old soul that wants the love I give in return. I am a deep thinker and one who gives more than they take. I’m strong willed and stubborn, but will make you feel like you are the only person on this earth. I’m more than my facial expressions and attitude, I’m a gentle soul with a heart of gold. I’m more than the way people judge me, I’m me and will never change!
  • To everyone in the world, I am Somebody and Nobody, to my family I’m the good son and the black sheep. To my Children I am provider and hero, and to myself I am failure and success. Who I am is defined by what I do, not what I say. To anyone and everyone I am something different, and it will forever be in flux. Somedays I am a hero, others the devil. On one day I can wake up a free man ready to take on the day, other days I wake to be a prisoner in my own body as it slowly betrays me more and more each day. Helping others is what truly makes me feel alive and connected with the world, and keeps me going on my darkest of days. So to answer the question of who am I, I am a grain of sand on the beach of the universe at the edge of the ocean where the sun hasn’t set yet. Some times I feel like I’m drowning, other times I catch the sun just right and shine. I can be the light of hope or the omen of doom to someone or anyone, its all a matter of perspective. I am someone who makes the best of every situation as best I can, and try to share positivity into the world.

Everyone had great answers.. But now it’s time for me to answer the same question. Who are you?

I am a mother and a daughter. I love to laugh. I am a good person. Helping people makes me happy and I love helping people achieve their goals. I am very untrusting. I am a recovering addict (9 years). I am a gamer nerd. I am unapologetic. I am an overthinker. I am paranoid. I am depressed and anxiety-ridden. I am raw. I am real. I am quirky. I am strong. I am stubborn. I am a realist. I love to write. I prefer pencils to pens. I am a people person. I am outgoing, but very introverted. I’m spontaneous, but hate surprises. I like to be in control. My mind is like no one else’s. My children inspire me everyday; they make me want to be and do better. I love random knowledge. I love all animals, but prefer cats to dogs. I am a lover. I give my all in every situation. I am the black sheep in my family. I am teacher. I am a leader. I put others before myself. I am a master procrastinator. I am a creator. I am a protector. I am a contradiction. I am a lot of things. I am me. No one else is like me, and I am like no one else. That is what makes me unique.

I feel like your idea of who you are can change depending on the day. Two days ago, I felt like I could take on the world. Today, I don’t want to get out of bed. I’m sure that has a lot to do with the mania and depression, but answering this question today proved to be tougher than expected. Who knows, my answer might be completely different tomorrow, but this is who I am today.

Who are you?

Why is this question so hard to answer?


  1. If I had to describe myself as something I would say a geek and a freak. The question is much more complex than that though. As you have noted. Your perception day to day changes as such does the way you see yourself within that day, within every moment you have had or ever likely to have. Most of the time I see the world as a collective highway of information. When I look at the world at an interstellar dimensional level, then I see us as particles colliding with other particles which in turn creates a cause and effect, a reaction to an action. Much the same way as my response to your wonderful article. It’s a difficult question to answer, because it urges us to find our truth’s about ourselves. Which at the end of it all, is all that we have to offer each other. Sometimes our truth is ugly, sometimes it is beautiful, sometimes it hurts, sometimes it heals. My truth is: I’m a loner, damaged by love and loss, a musician who has no singing voice, a dancer too lost to dance, a self-loathing waste of a life. I am hopeful, I am honest. I am positive. I miss living life, having adventures. I wish I didn’t break promises. I’m a media graduate, who hates the media. I’m a dog person, but love all animals, much more than I love humans, does this make me a sociopath? I’m narcissistic, egotistic and envious. I’m depressed and introverted I’ve managed to lose every friend and girlfriend I’ve ever had. I’m an arsehole. I hate when people don’t write proper words and use text slang. Can’t stand it when people use ‘loose’ instead of ‘lose’. I love reading and writing, playing on playstation and watching shitty programs and films, and hiking and driving, finding them secret hidden places where not many people have travelled. If I had to describe myself as a fictional character I would say I am like ‘loudermilk’ from the TV show of the same name, or ‘Jude’ from ‘Jude the obscure’. I have no motivation, passionless at the moment. Anything I used to get excited about, I don’t anymore. Sorry I’ve droned on for far too long. But, yeah, that is me.

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    1. Thank you so much for your comment!! The last bit, about having no motivation, passionless, and no excitement, is exactly how I have been feeling lately. Know that you are not alone in the struggle!! Hoping for brighter days ahead!!

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