Why?

Why is it so hard to follow your own advice? I give advice to people on the daily, but can’t, for the life of me, follow said advice.

Mannn.. I hype girls up every day. I tell them how beautiful they are and how great their hair, makeup, clothes, etc. look. I listen to girls talk about how miserable they are in their relationships. I read about people like me trying so hard to get a job. I chime in on almost every situation. It’s so easy for me to give my opinion and tell them what they should do, or how they should handle something. But then I look at my life and it’s like I draw a blank when I try to figure out what I should do..

When I see someone post about how down they are on themselves, I do any and everything in my power to try to lift them up, and spread positivity. But then five minutes later, I pass a mirror and hate what I see. Why is it so easy to believe in everyone else, but not yourself?

If someone confides in my about their unhealthy relationship, it’s so easy to tell them to leave. Because, above everything, they need to be happy. But, for so many years, I stayed in an unhealthy, unhappy relationship. I stayed because I didn’t want to make life hard on my kids. Admittedly, I did finally leave. But it was still hard. Thankfully, my kids were little and didn’t really know what was going on, which made it easier. But dang.. it’s so easy to tell someone to leave an unhappy environment. A lot harder said than done. And I get that.

I am in a few teaching groups on Facebook. I see posts everyday about how hard someone is trying to find a job. I am in the same position. I graduated in December of 2017. I have put in hundreds of applications, and have only had a handful of interviews. It’s very disheartening. I kind of feel like I wasted five years of my life and $50k on a degree for a career that will never pan out. But again, I’m always there, commenting to people not to lose hope and that the right job is out there, and they’ll get the one that’s meant for them. Why can’t I take that advice? I have wanted to be a teacher since I was five. I still want to be a teacher, more than anything. But when you don’t even get calls for an interview, it’s hard.

I can’t be the only one that has trouble taking their own advice. I just want to know why it’s so hard. What can we do to make it easier? Maybe it’s so easy for me to give advice because I have a lot of life experience? But you would think, with all the knowledge I have, it would be easy for me to be like, “Yeah… don’t do that..” or “You got this!!” or something… but that never happens. I am so hard on myself and everything I do. I’m sure a lot of it has to do with my mental health, but it’s hard for me to tell myself that I am enough or I am worth it or that I deserve certain things.

Until I find a legitimate, concrete answer for why it’s so hard, I will continue to try to be the light in someone’s day and do my best to spread positivity and encouragement to others. Life is hard.. For everyone. The least I can do is try to help someone get through tough times. 💖

Do you ever take your own advice? Or have you ever? Was it hard?

What kinds of things do you do to try to help spread positivity?

What’s the best piece of advice you can give to someone going through a tough time?

1 Comment

  1. Chin up, keep at it! Even though it can seem a daunting task some times, instead of looking at it in a negative way. Know that you have grown from all the experience. So, when you do get the teaching job you have always wanted you will be better equipped.

    Your post reminds me of an old stoic quote: ‘I have often wondered how it is that every man loves himself more than all the rest of men, but yet sets less value on his own opinions of himself than on the opinions of others.’ ~ Marcus Aurelius.

    My only contribution would be to say, that we internally see the world from our own perspective and therefore demand more from ourselves than of others, so we know the right advice to give others when they find themselves in a similar position to what we have been through in life. The only difference being that we have a lack of control when it comes to applying ourselves to the same advice, because, we doubt ourselves where others show faith in the advice given.

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